Valentine’s Day reflections on dates, gifts and genuine expressions of love
Gifting is a big part of Valentine's Day but there are many ways to show love this season.
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The season of love is upon us, and it is often marked by red and white Valentine’s Day colours and the lure of impulse purchases.
Retailers and restaurants are gearing up for the big day on Saturday, February 14, but this widespread commercial celebration begs the question: Is gifting truly the ultimate expression of love on Valentine’s Day?
Gifting is a time-honoured tradition, be it as an expression of love or simple appreciation. Embraced by people from all walks of life and of all ages, it is a cherished practice, whether you are buying for a partner, friend, family member, or even yourself.
People love differently and hold varying perceptions and expectations of love. Some prefer it soft, calm and quiet, while others seek it more vividly.
As much as love ideally evokes positive emotions, it is not always moonlight and roses. Love has phases and conditions that often demand sacrifice, unlearning, and relearning - all of which are rarely easy.
There are countless ways to express love: gifting, spending quality time, sharing a laugh, offering oneself, and the list goes on. But is there a blueprint or manual for perfect love? Perhaps one might look to Shakespeare’s "Romeo and Juliet” but is there truly a standardised version?
"IOL" took to the streets to hear people’s views on the day.
Ntando Buthelezi, 23, said: "For some reason, I am always single on Valentine’s Day, coincidentally whenever there are new trending love songs. Maybe it’s just not my time yet. But I think love is a beautiful thing.
"Ever looked at people and seen how they love each other genuinely and effortlessly? I wish I had my significant other."
Phumelele Tshabalala, 22, added: "Valentine’s is a pagan holiday, and people need to start researching the holidays they celebrate - understand how the holiday came about, who is celebrated and why.
"Most importantly, women think Valentine’s is all about them and expect gifts and treats, yet they contribute nothing to make men feel special, too. It becomes one-sided.
"It’s not a day to dwell on or measure your partner’s love, especially when they can love you for 364 other days and might get upset if they don’t ‘show up’ on this one day, disregarding all the other times they have."