Ah, motherhood—the beautiful chaos where every day is filled with both joy and a fair share of tantrums (sometimes from me).

When I first became a mom, I envisioned my first born wearing brand-new clothes, all sparkly and untouched.

I was determined that my baby would have the best of everything. No hand-me-downs for my little one!

Fast forward a few years and… well, reality hits hard, doesn’t it?

My first born, who once wore cute, pristine outfits, is now growing at a pace that makes my head spin. Jeans that once fit perfectly are suddenly too short within weeks, and don’t even get me started on shoes.

Enter: The Hand-Me-Downs.

I had to face facts—buying a completely new wardrobe every few months was simply not practical.

Kids grow too fast! And let’s be real: They get messy! Those brand-new clothes I once obsessed over? They were destined to become the victims of the dirt, paint, and, well, tantrums. That’s when I realized the genius of hand-me-downs.

Now, instead of panicking over keeping up with constantly evolving sizes, I’ve embraced the hand-me-down lifestyle.

Suddenly, passing along clothes my child has outgrown to his younger brother felt less like a defeat and more like a gift. The clothes aren’t “worn out”—they’re well-loved, still in great shape, and ready for a second (or third!) round. And guess what? My younger son is thrilled to wear “new” clothes that don’t cost me a penny.

But here’s the best part of this hand-me-down story: I’m incredibly grateful for one of my childhood friends. She’s a true hero in the clothing department.

Every season, she packs up her son’s clothes (he’s one year older than my boy) and sends them my way. It’s like receiving a surprise care package every few months —clothes that are practical, stylish, and in excellent condition. And I’m more than happy to return the favour.

I pack out my kids’ closet with clothes that no longer fit and pass them along to another friend, whose little one is the same size. The cycle continues, and it feels like a beautiful sharing community, all revolving around clothes!

But here's what I’ve learned the hard way: Not all moms are thrilled about the idea of hand-me-downs. While I may see the benefits, I’ve learned that some moms don’t feel the same way. Some prefer to buy everything new, and that’s perfectly okay! So, I’ve learned to ask first before offering.

A simple, “Hey, I have some clothes my kids have outgrown. Would you be interested?” goes a long way. And if they say no, that’s fine too!

Ultimately, though, I’ve come to realize that hand-me-downs are more than just clothes—they’re about community, an unspoken bond between moms. They’re about sharing and supporting one another in this wild, wonderful journey of raising kids.

I’ve also learned that second-hand clothing isn’t about settling for less; it’s about making the best of what we already have, recycling, and finding value in things that are still perfectly good.

Now, we have a new family motto: “These are your inside clothes, and we’ll save the good, new clothing for when we go out or to church.”

Sure, some of the clothes might be a little worn, but they’re still in great shape. And honestly, my kids don’t care—they’re just thrilled to have clothes that fit. Plus, I can use that extra cash to buy those special outfits for occasions that really matter.

So, here’s to hand-me-downs: the gift that keeps on giving, season after season.

tracy-lynn.ruiters@inl.co.za

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