Sexual performance anxiety can affect anyone and, if nothing is done about it, it can destroy your sex life and affect the relationship between couples, but it is not something that requires expensive treatments or radical actions to find a good solution.

Many things can cause us to feel anxious, and for many men, the pressure to perform well during sex triggers exactly that, which ends up causing some problems and becoming an obstacle that prevents them from being able to perform well in the first place.

It is not exactly a physical condition or a disease, but rather a mental and emotional situation that can affect the way the body reacts and functions.

It is normal to feel a little anxiety, but the levels can increase and cause you to not be able to enjoy the experiences you have or even to feel afraid that you will stop having sex with your partner.

What is sexual performance anxiety?

The first thing to know is that sexual performance anxiety is much more common in men than in women and it is said that between 9% and 25% of men experience it at some point in their lives, or even on several occasions.

“ Sexual performance anxiety is a type of sexual performance anxiety that affects sexual activity in particular. A person suffering from this condition will often be overcome by the fear of not being able to perform before or during sexual activities,” explains Very Well Mind.

According to the site, the situation can be so severe that it can cause you to be unable to have sex or an erection, to be unable to have an orgasm, or to not enjoy the sexual encounter you are having at all.

To clarify, it is not about erectile dysfunction, but rather it has to do with psychology.

How to improve your sex life if you have performance anxiety?

You have to talk to your partner

It's important to talk about what you're feeling, share what's going on with your partner, and process everything that's happening to you, but talking also helps build stronger relationships, more trust, and a deeper bond, which will make you feel less pressured and less anxious when it comes to having sex.

Confidence and self-esteem exercises

Sexual performance anxiety can be related to poor body image, self-confidence issues, or low self-esteem, according to Very Well Mind, which is why you need to work on those points, doing things that help you feel more confident, such as not giving up exercise or focusing your attention on your strengths and the things you like about yourself. The idea is to stop your internal narrative from being negative, so you can enjoy yourself more and feel better about yourself.

Practice a little and ask for feedback

Another common cause of performance anxiety is a lack of experience, as it leads people to think that they are not good enough. This can be solved by finding a partner you feel comfortable and confident with, practicing a bit, and having a conversation at the end where you can ask what they liked best and what things could be improved, not to put pressure on yourself, but to learn and improve your experiences and those of your partner.

Focus on physical sensations and movements to try to turn off your mind.

Seek the help of a therapist

This issue can also be related to things like depression, stress, and insecurity, which are things that a psychologist or therapist can help you work through and resolve. Very Well Mind also recommends masturbation, as it helps you get to know yourself and understand what works best for you.

[ Via GQ Mexico]